If you are looking for an answer to this question, you'll find it here. While I won't share with you the secret that will make you a confident person within a few days (there's no such thing), I'll show you three things that will help you fight with your shyness and improve your self-confidence (if you put them to use). Here they are! Don't give a damn what anyone thinks about you.Les Brown said that other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality. Remind yourself of this quote daily.Confident people don't care what other people think of them. When you do that, you tend to concentrate on other people's opinion instead of improving yourself. And that can make you feel insecure. Whenever you notice that you're worrying what other people think, change your thoughts to something positive. Control your thoughts!
Have a vision.If you don't know where you're going, any road will get you there. You should have a clear vision of your goal. What does self-confidence mean to you? Who do you want to become? When will you know that you are self-confident? Write down all qualities that you need to develop in yourself to become a truly confident person.It's also a great idea to imagine your ideal lifestyle in every detail - where you live, with whom, what you do on a daily basis etc. Having a clear vision of your future life will make you more self-confident and more focused on your goals.
Affirmations are about both of these - reminding yourself of your existing positive traits but also encouraging personal growth towards developing new behaviours.Tips for writing your own affirmations.Target all aspects of yourself - physical, personality, relationships, leadership etc.They must be uplifting - you must finish reading them with a big smile on your face.Be ultra-positive, even if you don't 100% believe it at the time.No negative words, even if they are double negatives (e.g. "I am beautiful" is much better than "I am not ugly"),Repeat them to yourself in the mirror - tell yourself how great you are.Read them to yourself every single day (preferably twice a day)
Unsure where to begin? Just pretend that you are a crazy groupie (your number-one fan) who is so ridiculously in love with you that they think that everything you do is awesome. Then start writing all the good things down with that completely biased point of view. The positive should start to flow soon enough.Example affirmations from my past.But I cannot expect you to actually do this if I don't lead the way can I? So I dug through my old notebooks to find some of the early affirmations I wrote. Here are some samples,I am a sexy, smart, and funny man.I give myself permission to be the person I want to be.I am cool, calm, and confident. I am always in control.I am so talented that I can do ANYTHING I want to.I deserve great relationships and fantastic friends.My life is great!
After you have undergone these steps, you should be ready to commit yourself to success. Obligate your self that you will confidently stand out there and deliver your speech like there is no tomorrow. Do this with willingness. Forcing your self to commit will not help. To be more exciting, try orally promising to yourself in front of the mirror that you will do your part with the best of your abilities. Good luck!
Here are 5 self-confidence tips for your inner world.Focus on what you want to do. Slow down and focus on things that are of real importance to you. We have a tendency to think we are important if we are multi-tasking today. We rush from one task to the next. It is common sense that this makes us do things half-heartedly. The more things you are up to the less time you have for each one of them. This might make you good at producing quantity, but it is at the expense of quality. This is a self-confidence killer, since you know you are not doing the tasks as good as you can do. When you have less things to do and you have the time to do them properly your self-confidence will increase.
Know that true beauty comes from the inside. You might say this is a cliche but in that case it is a true cliche. When you are pleased with yourself on the inside it will show on the outside. You can have all the qualities for outer beauty, but if you dont feel beautiful on the inside it will affect your outer look negatively. Most people are spending a fortune and a lot of time (=life) to fix their outer look, when what really makes one successful is the inner look. When your inside is beautiful your outer presence will shine.
Get to know yourself. Taking time to relax and calm down is a great way of finding yourself. Many people have difficulties spending time with themselves. I say you should spend a lot more time alone, with only your own company. This is a great way to get to know yourself better. If you always rush and always need to be in someone elses company you miss the chance to get to know a big part of yourself. When you get to know your real self better you will find new things about yourself, things you can bring with you when you go out and meet other people. This will increase your self-confidence.
Exercise Self Control.Step two - develop the ability to control your thoughts and inner dialogue, to continue the very satisfying process of learning how to build self confidence. Developing self control is essential, and it can only be developed through deliberate mental training - similar to become more physically fit by physical training and exercise. People often fail to develop self control because they mistakenly regard it as limiting their freedom. The truth is exactly the opposite. By exercising more control over your actions and thoughts, you can draw on this to help you achieve more of what you want in your life.
Give of Yourself.Step three - find ways to use your increasing self confidence to help others. In the process of moving forward, learning how to build self confidence, getting to know yourself, and gaining more self control it is natural to start looking for ways to help others - to give back.The need to help others fulfills a spiritual need which you have in common with everyone - the desire for a sense of purpose. This will also increase how you appreciate yourself and your value.Think about this. Many people are insecure and withdraw from others, which is nothing less than self rejection. Make a contribution to those around you, think beyond yourself, your insecurities and hardships, and thereby find your purpose.If you take the time to practice these simple steps, you will grow. You should become the best you can be - the person who was always inside you, yearning to be released. Now, freed from being restricted by a lack of knowledge and having developed self confidence, the true magnificent you will emerge.Have a great self confident life, and please remember, it is most important issue that you never give up and do what it takes to learn how to build self confidence.
Have a vision.If you don't know where you're going, any road will get you there. You should have a clear vision of your goal. What does self-confidence mean to you? Who do you want to become? When will you know that you are self-confident? Write down all qualities that you need to develop in yourself to become a truly confident person.It's also a great idea to imagine your ideal lifestyle in every detail - where you live, with whom, what you do on a daily basis etc. Having a clear vision of your future life will make you more self-confident and more focused on your goals.
Affirmations are about both of these - reminding yourself of your existing positive traits but also encouraging personal growth towards developing new behaviours.Tips for writing your own affirmations.Target all aspects of yourself - physical, personality, relationships, leadership etc.They must be uplifting - you must finish reading them with a big smile on your face.Be ultra-positive, even if you don't 100% believe it at the time.No negative words, even if they are double negatives (e.g. "I am beautiful" is much better than "I am not ugly"),Repeat them to yourself in the mirror - tell yourself how great you are.Read them to yourself every single day (preferably twice a day)
Unsure where to begin? Just pretend that you are a crazy groupie (your number-one fan) who is so ridiculously in love with you that they think that everything you do is awesome. Then start writing all the good things down with that completely biased point of view. The positive should start to flow soon enough.Example affirmations from my past.But I cannot expect you to actually do this if I don't lead the way can I? So I dug through my old notebooks to find some of the early affirmations I wrote. Here are some samples,I am a sexy, smart, and funny man.I give myself permission to be the person I want to be.I am cool, calm, and confident. I am always in control.I am so talented that I can do ANYTHING I want to.I deserve great relationships and fantastic friends.My life is great!
After you have undergone these steps, you should be ready to commit yourself to success. Obligate your self that you will confidently stand out there and deliver your speech like there is no tomorrow. Do this with willingness. Forcing your self to commit will not help. To be more exciting, try orally promising to yourself in front of the mirror that you will do your part with the best of your abilities. Good luck!
Here are 5 self-confidence tips for your inner world.Focus on what you want to do. Slow down and focus on things that are of real importance to you. We have a tendency to think we are important if we are multi-tasking today. We rush from one task to the next. It is common sense that this makes us do things half-heartedly. The more things you are up to the less time you have for each one of them. This might make you good at producing quantity, but it is at the expense of quality. This is a self-confidence killer, since you know you are not doing the tasks as good as you can do. When you have less things to do and you have the time to do them properly your self-confidence will increase.
Know that true beauty comes from the inside. You might say this is a cliche but in that case it is a true cliche. When you are pleased with yourself on the inside it will show on the outside. You can have all the qualities for outer beauty, but if you dont feel beautiful on the inside it will affect your outer look negatively. Most people are spending a fortune and a lot of time (=life) to fix their outer look, when what really makes one successful is the inner look. When your inside is beautiful your outer presence will shine.
Get to know yourself. Taking time to relax and calm down is a great way of finding yourself. Many people have difficulties spending time with themselves. I say you should spend a lot more time alone, with only your own company. This is a great way to get to know yourself better. If you always rush and always need to be in someone elses company you miss the chance to get to know a big part of yourself. When you get to know your real self better you will find new things about yourself, things you can bring with you when you go out and meet other people. This will increase your self-confidence.
Exercise Self Control.Step two - develop the ability to control your thoughts and inner dialogue, to continue the very satisfying process of learning how to build self confidence. Developing self control is essential, and it can only be developed through deliberate mental training - similar to become more physically fit by physical training and exercise. People often fail to develop self control because they mistakenly regard it as limiting their freedom. The truth is exactly the opposite. By exercising more control over your actions and thoughts, you can draw on this to help you achieve more of what you want in your life.
Give of Yourself.Step three - find ways to use your increasing self confidence to help others. In the process of moving forward, learning how to build self confidence, getting to know yourself, and gaining more self control it is natural to start looking for ways to help others - to give back.The need to help others fulfills a spiritual need which you have in common with everyone - the desire for a sense of purpose. This will also increase how you appreciate yourself and your value.Think about this. Many people are insecure and withdraw from others, which is nothing less than self rejection. Make a contribution to those around you, think beyond yourself, your insecurities and hardships, and thereby find your purpose.If you take the time to practice these simple steps, you will grow. You should become the best you can be - the person who was always inside you, yearning to be released. Now, freed from being restricted by a lack of knowledge and having developed self confidence, the true magnificent you will emerge.Have a great self confident life, and please remember, it is most important issue that you never give up and do what it takes to learn how to build self confidence.
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